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Why are some people happier, well-collected, and have less baggage than others? While science may never figure this out, it is essential to understand that everybody hurts.

The need to “keep up,” the pressure to succeed, fear of missing out, and the desire for good relationships can all lead to a dangerous combination of emotions. And when you’re in the throes of emotional pain, it can be hard to imagine that you will get to witness better days in the future.

People tend to block and avoid their emotions instead of acknowledging them. However, when we do acknowledge our emotions, we zap them away with childhood mantras (“suck it up” and “get a grip” are familiar ones). But let’s be clear: thwarting emotions is the worst thing you can do as it will slowly be the death of you.

What we need are healthy ways to deal with our problems. In this article, we’ll shed light on all the ways through which you can deal with your emotional baggage:

  1. Put your energy on something else

Instead of drowning in grief or negative thoughts, you can choose to do something productive to help you heal. For instance, if anxiety and depression block you from living a happy and peaceful life, you can enroll in emotion code training sessions and learn how to deal with your emotions. While not everyone likes to deal with their problems, this course is an effective way to cope with extreme emotional trauma healthily and spiritually.

Aside from workshops and courses, if your emotional pain is mild, you can choose to pursue a new hobby or do something you’ve always wanted to do. Even if it’s challenging to get away from your feelings, you owe it to yourself to divert your attention to something more positive.

  1. Try meditation

If you already meditate, it could be one of your go-to methods for dealing with intense emotions. Meditation can help you become more aware of your experiences and feelings. When you meditate, you teach yourself to sit with those feelings, to acknowledge them without judging yourself or trying to shape or eliminate them. Also, learning to accept all of your emotions can help with emotional regulation. Meditation can help you improve your acceptance skills. It also has other advantages, such as assisting you to relax and clear your head.

  1. Take pleasure in the little things

Savoring small and big joys in your daily life boosts your morale. It may even protect against negative emotions, acting as a stress buffer. This habit entails reminiscing about beautiful moments in your past, appreciating the minor details of your daily life, setting aside time for a distinctive pleasure or a moment of beauty, and enabling yourself to appreciate even the bittersweet instances fully. You might want to make a “happiness album” of blissful memories.

  1. Practice forgiveness

Forgiveness is a complex — and intensely personal — topic. On the other hand, people who can forgive have higher levels of self and more happiness and joy in their lives. While giving someone another chance may not always be a good decision, you can still practice tolerance by writing a message (even if you don’t send it) to experience what forgiving feels like.

It may be beneficial to reflect on times in your life when you have been pardoned. Moreover, forgiveness can lead to healthier relationships and improved mental health. So forgive, forget and heal.

  1. Find a good support system

Speaking to a friend or family member, or even joining a support group, could be helpful. It is crucial to have an emotional and social outlet. Speaking with someone and saying out loud how you are feeling can also help with healing. One word of caution with this step: don’t get too bogged down in repetitive venting, which can turn into unhealthy retrospection and get you stuck. You must use your support system to talk about how you’re feeling.

  1. Never play the victim

Even if you were the one who was hurt and deceived in your story, you should not play the victim if you believe you are. You can always change the narrative of the story you are living. Others may have harmed you, but they only have control over your emotional pain if you give it to them. After all, your feelings are what control your emotions. When you shift your thoughts to a more positive frame of mind, your senses will follow suit. So repeat after us: “I am not a victim; I am a survivor.”

  1. Keep a journal of your emotions

One of the advantages of journaling is it allows you to express all of your emotions without fear of judgment or criticism. Starting a journal can assist you in reflecting on, analyzing, and changing your feelings to get unraveled from your emotional pain. Besides that, keeping a journal with you can provide a safe space to express your feelings and negative thoughts without feeling self-conscious.


Managing your emotions and deciding to be happy will never be easy. And there will probably be a certain emotion-like-anger that will turn you into a monster that hates everyone (and is hated by everyone).

But the more attention and time you spend on giving yourself a break, the stronger you will become. With the ways mentioned above, you can gain confidence in your ability to manage discomfort while also knowing you can change yourself for the better. Remember that healing will take some time, and you will come out strong.